|romance sous le parapluie jaune #1 (Photo credit: ah zut)|
So, let's give it a try again.
"Love" is paying attention to the other, is care and concern for the other. Sex alone is not love. Living with another is not enough to rise to the level of love. Dating or "seeing another" is not enough to equal love.
Love is concern and care. In the terms of phenomenological philosophy, love is the self going outside of itself and relating in care, a "thrownness" that journeys out of the self. Love is an exodus.
In the Christian tradition, it is going out of oneself to the point, if necessary, of extinguishing the self for the good of the other. Hence, the crucifix.